find peace in realizing that no one truly knows you
a guide to let your constant thoughts and concerns go
I’ve always carried something that hurt my heart in the most gut-wrenching way, to the point it made me feel helpless, angry, desperate. It was people not knowing how I really feel about things, what I think about them, what they actually mean to me.
And then I realized… maybe it’s understandable. If you never say how you feel about something, how could people know? They assume. But that’s what I don’t get: why should you assume anything about anyone if you’ve never heard them speak about it?
I always thought that was normal. That everyone waited to listen first. Until I grew up, and realized how society actually works.
For a long time, I reacted with shock whenever someone assumed things about me. “I never told you that, so what makes you think you know me so well, huh?” But lately, I’ve stopped explaining. Now I just say: “well, if that’s what you think, then go ahead.”
That’s it. I let them live with their version. I know it’s not how I feel, but I won’t waste time trying to convince them. My peace matters more than their misunderstanding.
As long as my loved ones — my family, my close friends — know who I am and support me through ups and downs, through tears and silly angers, that’s all I want. Not fitting into anyone else’s criteria of “how things are supposed to be.”
A few tips that helped me (maybe they’ll help you too):
Find peace in your own knowledge, your confidence in what feels right.
If you discover you’re wrong and the other person’s right, it’s okay to admit it. Growth is part of life.
Listen openly, even when it’s uncomfortable. Closing yourself off hurts more in the long run.
If someone attacks your ideas, let them. Not everyone will like you, no matter how good you are — and some people even hate others because they’re good.
When I started acting like this — not caring what people thought of how I think, act, or exist — I finally found peace.
Because how sad is it for someone not to know how deeply I think, how much we could grow together by sharing, correcting, learning? But still, I’m happy. Happy to exist freely, without explaining myself.
thank you for reading.